Osas Ighodaro's Mother Dies A Week To Her Birthday (Photo) 

Nollywood actress, Osas Ighodaro is bereaved as she has lost her mother to the cold hands of death.

Igbere TV reports that the actress who shared the news on Instagram, revealed that her mother died on Wednesday November 4.

Osas wrote; “RIP Mummy ���. Nov 10th, 1955 – Nov 4th, 2020. Pls wake me up. ����.”


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A week ago, Osas celebrated her birthday with lengthy message, praying and be hoping for better days for herself, those that she love and hold dear and most certainly for the country Nigeria.

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#celebritynews: YNW Melly Confessed To Murdering His 2 Friends: Report

In a new report by Complex, it is stated that the Broward County court system is reportedly reviewing an audio recording of YNW Melly confessing to the double murder of his two friends, Christopher “YNW Juvy” Thomas Jr. and Anthony “YNW Sakchaser” Williams.

The 21-year-old Florida native has been in jail for nearly the last two years, where he has repeatedly claimed his innocence in a double murder case. Alongside YNW Bortlen, who posted bond in May, YNW Melly is accused of staging a drive-by shooting and killing his two friends, YNW Juvy and YNW Sakchaser. He reportedly drove around for a bit with their bodies in the car before bringing them to the hospital.

The report explains that a new lawsuit has been filed by the families of Melly’s alleged victims against the rapper, his mother, and his manager for millions of dollars. The civil suit would allow a jury to decide if the plaintiffs are liable to receive monetary compensation, should Melly be proven guilty.

Attorney Todd Baker, who is representing Williams’ family, told Complex that, prior to the shooting, “tension began to develop between the once cohesive group of friends about how the money should be distributed. When there are less people splitting up the prospective money, the people on the receiving end will get more.”

Things are not looking good for Melly because, in a hearing from August 2019, it was reportedly revealed that a video exists of the rapper admitting to murder. “There’s no regret for the **** that I did for that n***a to die,” he allegedly says in the video, which was filmed one month following the murders of his friends. According to Broward County Assistant State Attorney Kristine Bradley’s description, Melly goes on to put a pen to his head as though it were a gun, mimes pulling the trigger, and throws up a Blood gang sign.

YNW Melly faces the death penalty if he is proven guilty.

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Climate Activist, Greta Thunberg Mocks Trump After He Called For Vote Counts To Stop

Trump has consistently mocked the science behind climate change, calling it a hoax. He recently pulled America out of the Paris Climate Agreement targeted at reducing global carbon emissions.


Teen climate change activist, Greta Thunberg, has mocked US President Donald Trump over his calls for vote counts to be stopped as he lags behind Democratic challenger, Joe Biden.

Trump has consistently mocked the science behind climate change, calling it a hoax.

He recently pulled America out of the Paris Climate Agreement targeted at reducing global carbon emissions.


Swedish climate activist Greta Thunberg speaks during a meeting at the French National Assembly.
AFP
Thunberg and Trump do not see eye to eye. In December 2019, after she was named Time Person of the Year, Trump called her win "ridiculous" suggesting that the teenage activist take anger management classes.

Trump was nominated for the same award but lost to Thunberg.

He tweeted at the time, "So ridiculous, Greta must work on her anger management problem, then go to a good old fashioned movie with a friend! Chill Greta, Chill!"

So ridiculous. Greta must work on her Anger Management problem, then go to a good old fashioned movie with a friend! Chill Greta, Chill! https://t.co/M8ZtS8okzE

— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) December 12, 2019
In an apparent swipe at Trump's performance in the presidential elections, Thunberg replied a tweet by Trump, which said: "Stop the count!" In the same manner, he responded to her Time Person of the Year award.

Her tweet on Thursday reads: "So ridiculous. Donald must work on his Anger Management problem, then go to a good old fashioned movie with a friend! Chill Donald, Chill!"

So ridiculous. Donald must work on his Anger Management problem, then go to a good old fashioned movie with a friend! Chill Donald, Chill! https://t.co/4RNVBqRYBA



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#relationshiptips: 14 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Strong, Healthy, and Happy

We’ve all heard that a relationship “takes work,” but what does that mean exactly?

Frankly, it sounds like drudgery. Who wants to spend hours at an office only to come home to job number two? Wouldn’t it be more pleasant to think of your relationship as a source of comfort, fun, and pleasure?

Of course, it would. That said, here are some basic fixes if things feel stagnant if the good times are becoming few and far between, if arguing is your main form of communication, or if you just feel that you need a tune-up. And they might even be enjoyable.

How to maintain a healthy relationship doesn’t need to be a long winding, complex process.

Really.

Allow me to elaborate and as you read on, you may just find it pretty resourceful to keep a healthy relationship.

1. Don’t argue over money
Arguing over money with partner is a guaranteed relationship killer

It’s practically a guaranteed relationship killer. If you haven’t yet had a conversation about how money is earned, spent, saved, and shared, do it now. Try to get an understanding of how each of you sees your financial life, and where the differences are. Then address them.

2. Try not to focus on trifles
Is it worth fighting about? More to the point, is it really a trifle? Often a seemingly minor issue is a manifestation of a larger problem. Do you want to know how to make a relationship strong? Talk about what’s really bothering you, instead of how loud the TV is. It’s really that simple.

3. Share your thoughts
Share your hopes, fears and passions with your partner

Your hopes. Your fears. Your passions. Let your partner know who you really are. Set aside some time each day just to talk about the things that are important to each of you, as individuals. This is one of the most crucial things to do to make your relationship stronger.

4. Be friendly
Treat your partner the way you’d treat a good and trusted friend: with respect, consideration, and kindness. It will go a long way in fostering a strong relationship.

5. Resolve arguments together
Resolve arguments together with your partner

When couples fight, it’s all too easy to get locked into a win/lose dynamic. Think of your disagreement as a problem for you both to solve, not a fight for you to win. Think of saying “we” before giving in to the temptation of casting blame on the other person.

6. Show affection daily
Sex is one thing. Holding hands, a hug, a squeeze on the arm – all create connection and trust. If you’re not getting as much attention as you want, let it be known.

7. Focus on the positive
Focus on the positivity to make the relationship strong

What do you appreciate about your partner? What first attracted you? What do you treasure about your life together? Focus on the positivity to make the relationship strong.

8. Be supportive
Nothing kills a buzz like a negative or absent response to something you’re enthusiastic about.

9. Words plus deeds
Saying “I love you” carries much more weight when you consistently do things that your partner values.

10. Recognize that all relationships have ups and downs
Think long-term. Your relationship is an investment, as the stock market. Ride out the downtimes. With the right kind of attention, they will be temporary.

11. Respect each other when arguing
It is all too tempting to use whatever ammunition you’ve got in the heat of battle. Ask yourself, where will it get you? A partner who is likely to come to your side, or one who will get even more defensive? Ask your partner how they see the problem.

12. Have each other’s back
Have each other’s back

And, let that be known, that’s how you keep a relationship strong.

13. Set goals as a couple
Talk about how you want your relationship to look in a year, five years, ten years. Then work toward that goal.

14. Make your partner a priority
That is why you’re in this relationship in the first place.

This is how to keep a relationship strong and happy. Following these tips will get you closer to your spouse and improve the quality of your relationship. Relationships, against what is commonly believed, are not as difficult to maintain as they are made out to be. Inculcating some habits and behaviors in your day to day life is sufficient to keep your relationship strong, healthy, and happy.

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#relationshiptips: BE PRACTICAL, AND CREATE RELATIONSHIP RULES

“There is no 50/50 in housecleaning, child rearing, vacation planning, dishwasher emptying, gift buying, dinner making, money making, etc. The sooner everyone accepts that, the happier everyone is. We all have things we like to do and hate to do; we all have things we are good at and not so good at. TALK to your partner about those things when it comes to dividing and conquering all the crap that has to get done in life.”

– Liz

Most people have an image in their mind of how a relationship should work. For many, it’s that both people share responsibilities; both manage to finely balance their time together with the time for themselves; both pursue engaging and invigorating interests on their own and then share the benefits together; both take turns cleaning the toilet and blowing each other and cooking gourmet lasagna for the extended family at Thanksgiving (although hopefully not at the same time).

Then there’s how relationships actually work: Chaotic. Stressful. Miscommunication flying everywhere so that both of you feel as though you’re in a perpetual state of talking to a wall.

The fact is relationships are imperfect, messy affairs. And it’s for the simple reason that they’re comprised of imperfect, messy people — people who want different things at different times in different ways.

The common theme of the advice about the logistics of running a relationship was be pragmatic. If the wife is a lawyer and spends 50 hours at the office every week, and the husband is an artist and can work from home most days, it makes more sense for him to handle most of the day-to-day parenting duties. If the wife’s standard of cleanliness makes a Home & Garden catalog look like a hovel, and the husband has gone six months without even noticing the light fixture hanging from the ceiling, then it makes sense that the wife handles more of the home cleaning duties.

It’s economics 101: division of labor makes everyone better off. Figure out what you are each good at, what you each love/hate doing, and then arrange accordingly. My wife loves cleaning (no, seriously), but she hates smelly stuff. So, guess who gets dishes and garbage duty? I don’t give a ****–I’ll eat off the same plate seven times in a row, and I couldn’t smell a dead rat even if it was sleeping under my pillow.

On top of that, many couples suggested laying out rules for the relationship more generally. To what degree will you share finances? How much debt will be taken on or paid off? How much can each person spend without consulting the other? What purchases should be done together, or do you trust each other to shop separately? How do you decide which vacations to go on?

Have meetings about this stuff. Sure, it’s not sexy or cool, but it needs to get done. You’re sharing a life together, so you need to plan and account for each person’s needs and resources.

One person even said that she and her husband have “annual reviews” every year. She immediately told me not to laugh, but seriously–this couple have annual reviews where they discuss everything that’s going on in the household and what they can do in the coming year to change the things that aren’t working. Even if you think this sort of stuff sounds lame, it’s what keeps this couple in touch with each other. And because they always have their fingers on the pulse of each other’s needs, they’re more likely to grow together rather than grow apart.

#relationshiptips

TO ACHIEVE A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP.....

GET GOOD AT FIGHTING
“The relationship is a living, breathing thing. Much like the body and muscles, it cannot get stronger without stress and challenge. You have to fight. You have to hash things out. Obstacles make the marriage.”

– Ryan

John Gottman is a hot-**** psychologist and researcher who has spent over 30 years analyzing married couples, looking for keys to why they stick together (and why they break up). In fact, when it comes to “why do people stick together?” he dominates the field.

What Gottman does is he gets married couples in a room, puts some cameras on them, and then he asks them to have a fight Notice: he doesn’t ask them to talk about how great the other person is. He doesn’t ask them what they like best about their relationship. He asks them to fight–they’re told to pick something they’re having problems with and talk about it for the camera.

Gottman then analyses the couple’s discussion (or shouting match) and is able to predict–with startling accuracy–whether or not a couple will divorce.

But what’s most interesting about Gottman’s research is that the things that lead to divorce are not necessarily what you might imagine. He found that successful couples, like unsuccessful couples, fight consistently. And some of them fight furiously.

Gottman has been able to narrow down four characteristics of a couple that tend to lead to divorces (or breakups). He has gone on and called these “the four horsemen” of the relationship apocalypse in his books:

Criticizing your partner’s character (“you’re so stupid” vs “that thing you did was stupid.”)
Defensiveness (or basically, blame shifting, “I wouldn’t have done that if you weren’t late all the time.”)
Contempt (putting down your partner and making them feel inferior.)
Stonewalling (withdrawing from an argument and ignoring your partner.)
The reader emails you all sent back this up as well. Out of the 1,500 I received, almost every single one referenced the importance of dealing well with conflict.

Advice given by readers included:

Never insult or name-call your partner. Put another way: hate the sin, love the sinner. Gottman’s research found that “contempt” — belittling and demeaning a partner — is the number one predictor of divorce.
Do not bring previous fights/arguments into current ones. This solves nothing and just makes the fight twice as bad as it was before. Yeah, you forgot to pick up groceries on the way home, but what does him being rude to your mother last Thanksgiving have to do with that, or anything?
If things get too heated, take a breather. Remove yourself from the situation and come back once emotions have cooled off a bit. This is a big one for me personally–sometimes when things get intense with my wife, I get overwhelmed and just leave. I usually walk around the block 2-3 times and let myself seethe for a bit. Then I come back and we’re both a bit calmer and we can resume the discussion with a more conciliatory tone.
Remember that being “right” is not as important as both people feeling respected and heard. You may well be right, but if you are right in such a way that makes your partner feel unloved, then there’s no real winner.
But all of this takes for granted another important point: the willingness to fight in the first place.

When people talk about the necessity for “good communication” all of the time, this is what they should mean: be willing to have the uncomfortable talks; be willing to have the fights; say the ugly things and get it all out in the open.

This was a constant theme from the divorced readers–dozens had more or less the same sad story to tell:

“But there’s no way on God’s green earth this is her fault alone. There were times when I saw huge red flags. Instead of trying to figure out what in the world was wrong, I just plowed ahead. I’d buy more flowers, or candy, or do more chores around the house. I was a “good” husband in every sense of the word. But what I wasn’t doing was paying attention to the right things… And instead of saying something, I ignored all of the signals.”

– Jim

Court Orders Kogi To Pay Simon Achuba, Impeached Deputy Governor N180m

The National Industrial Court in Abuja has ordered the Kogi State Government to pay the former Deputy Governor, Simon Achuba, N180 million.

The sum represents outstanding security votes from April 2018 to August 2019.

Mr Achuba was impeached by the state House of Assembly in 2019 and was replaced by Edward Onoja, who was reelected last year with Governor Yahaya Bello.

Mr Achuba’s impeachment followed the submission of a report of the committee set up by the former State Chief Judge, late Nasir Ajana, to investigate an allegation of gross misconduct against him.

However, a high court in Kogi declared that the subsequent nomination of Mr Onoja and his inauguration as the deputy governor did not follow due process.

Mr Achuba also dragged the state government before the National Industrial Court, seeking a declaration that the decision by the government to withhold his allowances, amounted to unfair labour practice.

He also asked to be paid N921,572,758 as security vote, monthly imprest, travelling allowances, outstanding memos, and statutory allocations due to his office, as then deputy governor.

Delivering the judgement on Wednesday, Justice Oyebiola Oyewunmi ordered the state government to pay him N180 million within 30 days, failure which the amount would draw a 30 per cent monthly interest.

#nairaland

Oando Tank Farm In Ijora On Fire (Pictures)

A fuel tank at an Oando tank farm in Ijora-Badia is currently on fire. Emergency services are at the scene.

Meet Queen Joy Ebhodaghe, Nigeria's Rep at The Miss globe 2020 World Finals

Queen Ebhodaghe Joy is currently representing Nigeria at the 46th edition of The Miss Globe pageant in Tirana, Albania.

The Edo state born model emerged 3rd runner up at the 13th edition of the prestigious Beauty of Africa International pageant(BAIP) held in Calabar 2019. And was crowned Baip Globe Nigeria 2019/2020

As The Miss Globe Nigeria 2020, Joy will be hoping to win the highly reffered pageant title that has 47 delegates from other countries.

The grand finale is set to take off on Tuesday, 12th November, 2020. Virtual voting is open on the competition website and Joy will be hoping to get all the support that will help her win the title.

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