HOW TO REKINDLE THE FIRE IN YOUR SEXY LOVELIFE
When a man and a woman have been together for a while, it is easy for the fire and intimacy to die down. The passion may not be as it used to be, the marriage can be reduced to a set of boring routine and the excitement can become flat. The first step to getting the fire back is to accept that things have changed for the worse and acknowledgement that for the rekindle to occur, there must be active effort put by both. The fire can be rekindled when you:
1. CHANGE YOUR LOOK
If corporate brands change their look after a few years to appeal to the market, also change your look to appeal to your partner. No matter how good you've been dressing, your partner is already used to it. Buy new clothes, buy new underwear, new lingerie, try a new hairstiyle, work out for a finer physique so that your partner sees you in a new exciting light; rebrand
2. MOVE TO A NEW HOUSE
Changing the environment can help in exciting the senses and add wonder when you are together
3. DO A BEDROOM MAKE OVER
Rearrange things, discard old stuff, buy need stuff, paint the walls a different color; montony is boring. The bedroom should be the most desirable room to be in, change your bedroom settings and do it together so that you both own the make over
4. APOLOGIZE AND FORGIVE
It is hard to have intimacy when issues are unresolved and hidden under the carpet. Don't run away from issues, issues are normal in relationships; love is not the absence of issues, love is the capacity to keep issues from poisoning your warmth. Apologize when you wrong, forgive when wronged
5. GO OUT ON DATES
Go for a holiday, a picnic, a date outside together. A different set up makes you two focus on each other in the thrill of a new venue. Just because you are married doesn't mean you stop dating each other
6. SAY NO PORN
Ask yourself, why do people watch porn? - for sexual stimulation... Depending on porn for sexual stimulation robs your spouse of the full power to stimulate you. Does it mean that your spouse lacks capacity to stimulate you? If so, watching porn doesn't help but makes the situation worse. Porn makes sex cheap and yet the act is part of intimacy. Bring intimacy back, turn off the porn so that your spouse has your full surrender and attention and you are both forced to try as hard as you can to turn each other on and make that climax not just the most intense but the most special
7. COMMIT AFRESH
As your fire has been dwindling, questions have lingered in your partner and you. "Do you love me the same? Do you even love me at all?"... Allay those fears by reaffirming your love for each other. This is why some couples celebrate Anniversaries. Affirmation demolishes the doubts and frees both of you to keep giving your all
8. KEEP THE CHILD/CHILDREN AWAY
It's good to have kids and to be around them, but sometimes keep the children away so that mom and dad can have their alone time. Protect your love from the children's interferance, for if your love is messed up the quality of your parenthood will suffer too
9. AVOID HURTING
Minimize hurting, refrain from hurting each other. A hurting heart finds it difficult to fire up to intimacy
10. KISS MORE
Kissing brings two people together, the more you kiss the more you melt to intimacy. Deep, long, passionate kisses
11. PRAY
God cares about your sex life and intimacy; take your sex and intimacy problems to God together
12. ALLOCATE QUALITY TIME
Don't be passive but actively schedule uninterrupted time. Too many couples dangerously find themselves going through the motions, other things have priority but time together is a by the way
13. HAVE A NO WORK TIME ZONE
It is good to work for your family but your work shouldn't come between you and your spouse. Don't carry work to the bedroom or make your spouse feel denied your attention because you wedded your spouse but you're married to your work
14. KEEP TECHNOLOGY AWAY
Technology can be harmful to your intimacy if it's left to disrupt your time together. Your partner wants to talk to you, to kiss you, to cuddle, to make love, to have your undivided attention but your eyes are busy playing a game on the tablet, chatting on phone, Facebooking, Tweeting, Instagraming. For the sake of love, put away the gadget
15. DANCE MORE
Dancing adds to the fire; it doesn't matter how great a dancer you are or your partner is. Sensual dancing is most ideal for intimacy; salsa, lingala, slow dancing as your bodies grind together
16. HAVE PILLOW TALKS
As the rest of the world is chased away, recline on the bed and have pillow talks. Talks not about bills, responsibilities but about love, emotions, feelings, sex and thoughts
17. WRITE LOVE LETTERS
Leave notes for each other written sweet stuff, leave a note for her on the bed or a note for him in his laptop. Something to make him/her smile, something short and sweet made personal by your handwriting
18. LET GO OF DISTRACTIONS
Those people you flirt with and excuse yourself saying you are not cheating as long as you don't have sex with them, block them. Entertaining distractions reduces the effort you should be putting towards enriching your love life
19. INVEST IN NEW SCENTS
Buy a new perfume/cologne; introduce your partner to a new exciting scent that will invite your partner to unveil you and be around you
20. LET LOOSE
Stop being rigid, be open to change. Experiment, try new sex positions, talk the nice kind of dirty, tease, be playful, play out love scenes.
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#marriage
#intimacy
HOW TO REKINDLE THE FIRE IN YOUR SEXY LOVELIFE
When a man and a woman have been together for a while, it is easy for the fire and intimacy to die down. The passion may not be as it used to be, the marriage can be reduced to a set of boring routine and the excitement can become flat. The first step to getting the fire back is to accept that things have changed for the worse and acknowledgement that for the rekindle to occur, there must be active effort put by both. The fire can be rekindled when you:
1. CHANGE YOUR LOOK
If corporate brands change their look after a few years to appeal to the market, also change your look to appeal to your partner. No matter how good you've been dressing, your partner is already used to it. Buy new clothes, buy new underwear, new lingerie, try a new hairstiyle, work out for a finer physique so that your partner sees you in a new exciting light; rebrand
2. MOVE TO A NEW HOUSE
Changing the environment can help in exciting the senses and add wonder when you are together
3. DO A BEDROOM MAKE OVER
Rearrange things, discard old stuff, buy need stuff, paint the walls a different color; montony is boring. The bedroom should be the most desirable room to be in, change your bedroom settings and do it together so that you both own the make over
4. APOLOGIZE AND FORGIVE
It is hard to have intimacy when issues are unresolved and hidden under the carpet. Don't run away from issues, issues are normal in relationships; love is not the absence of issues, love is the capacity to keep issues from poisoning your warmth. Apologize when you wrong, forgive when wronged
5. GO OUT ON DATES
Go for a holiday, a picnic, a date outside together. A different set up makes you two focus on each other in the thrill of a new venue. Just because you are married doesn't mean you stop dating each other
6. SAY NO PORN
Ask yourself, why do people watch porn? - for sexual stimulation... Depending on porn for sexual stimulation robs your spouse of the full power to stimulate you. Does it mean that your spouse lacks capacity to stimulate you? If so, watching porn doesn't help but makes the situation worse. Porn makes sex cheap and yet the act is part of intimacy. Bring intimacy back, turn off the porn so that your spouse has your full surrender and attention and you are both forced to try as hard as you can to turn each other on and make that climax not just the most intense but the most special
7. COMMIT AFRESH
As your fire has been dwindling, questions have lingered in your partner and you. "Do you love me the same? Do you even love me at all?"... Allay those fears by reaffirming your love for each other. This is why some couples celebrate Anniversaries. Affirmation demolishes the doubts and frees both of you to keep giving your all
8. KEEP THE CHILD/CHILDREN AWAY
It's good to have kids and to be around them, but sometimes keep the children away so that mom and dad can have their alone time. Protect your love from the children's interferance, for if your love is messed up the quality of your parenthood will suffer too
9. AVOID HURTING
Minimize hurting, refrain from hurting each other. A hurting heart finds it difficult to fire up to intimacy
10. KISS MORE
Kissing brings two people together, the more you kiss the more you melt to intimacy. Deep, long, passionate kisses
11. PRAY
God cares about your sex life and intimacy; take your sex and intimacy problems to God together
12. ALLOCATE QUALITY TIME
Don't be passive but actively schedule uninterrupted time. Too many couples dangerously find themselves going through the motions, other things have priority but time together is a by the way
13. HAVE A NO WORK TIME ZONE
It is good to work for your family but your work shouldn't come between you and your spouse. Don't carry work to the bedroom or make your spouse feel denied your attention because you wedded your spouse but you're married to your work
14. KEEP TECHNOLOGY AWAY
Technology can be harmful to your intimacy if it's left to disrupt your time together. Your partner wants to talk to you, to kiss you, to cuddle, to make love, to have your undivided attention but your eyes are busy playing a game on the tablet, chatting on phone, Facebooking, Tweeting, Instagraming. For the sake of love, put away the gadget
15. DANCE MORE
Dancing adds to the fire; it doesn't matter how great a dancer you are or your partner is. Sensual dancing is most ideal for intimacy; salsa, lingala, slow dancing as your bodies grind together
16. HAVE PILLOW TALKS
As the rest of the world is chased away, recline on the bed and have pillow talks. Talks not about bills, responsibilities but about love, emotions, feelings, sex and thoughts
17. WRITE LOVE LETTERS
Leave notes for each other written sweet stuff, leave a note for her on the bed or a note for him in his laptop. Something to make him/her smile, something short and sweet made personal by your handwriting
18. LET GO OF DISTRACTIONS
Those people you flirt with and excuse yourself saying you are not cheating as long as you don't have sex with them, block them. Entertaining distractions reduces the effort you should be putting towards enriching your love life
19. INVEST IN NEW SCENTS
Buy a new perfume/cologne; introduce your partner to a new exciting scent that will invite your partner to unveil you and be around you
20. LET LOOSE
Stop being rigid, be open to change. Experiment, try new sex positions, talk the nice kind of dirty, tease, be playful, play out love scenes.
#relationship
#marriage
#intimacy
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