Six Leadership Principles that we can learn from an Eagle

1. Eagles fly Alone and at High Altitudes.
They don't fly with sparrows, ravens, and other small birds.

MEANING; Stay away from narrow-minded people, those that bring you down. Eagle flies with Eagles. Keep good company.

2. Eagles have an Accurate Vision. They have the ability to focus on something as far as 5km away. No matter the obstacles, the eagle will not move his focus from the prey until he grabs it.

MEANING; Have a vision and remain focused no matter what the obstacles and you will succeed.

3. Eagles do not Eat Dead things. They Feed only on Fresh Prey.

MEANING; Do not rely on your past success, keep looking for new frontiers to conquer. Leave your past where it belongs, in the past.

4. Eagles Love the Storm.
When clouds gather, the eagle gets excited, the eagle uses the storms wind to lift itself higher. Once it finds the wind of the storm, the eagle uses the raging storm to lift itself above the clouds. This gives the eagle an opportunity to glide and rest its wings. In the meantime, all the other birds hide in the branches and leaves of the tree.

MEANING; Face your challenges head on knowing that these will make you emerge stronger and better than you were. We can use the storms of life to rise to greater heights. Achievers are not afraid to rise to greater heights. Achievers are not afraid of challenges, rather they relish them and use them profitably.

5. Eagles Prepare for Training;
They remove the feathers and soft grass in the nest so that the young ones get uncomfortable in preparation for flying and eventually flies/ when it becomes unbearable to stay in the nest./

MEANING; Leave your Comfort Zone, there is No Growth there.

6. When the Eagle Grows Old,
His feathers becomes weak and cannot take him as fast and as high as it should. This makes him weak and could make him die. So he retires to a place far away in the mountains. While there, he plucks out the weak feathers on his body and breaks its beaks and claws against the rocks until he is completely bare; a very bloody and painful process. Then he stays in this hiding place until he has grown new feathers, new beaks and claws and then he comes out flying higher than before.

MEANING; We occasionally need to shed off old habit no matter how difficult, things that burden us or add no value to our lives should be let go of.

MY WIFE TREATS ME COLDLY

Good afternoon ma'am.

Please, I need your advice.

I don't want to pretend not to know where my problem is coming from.

I know I'll be dragged but if a solution would come from there I don't mind.

I was never the best husband.

I was the kind of husband who wanted what he wanted at any time.

When my wife got pregnant with our first child I wasn't kind to her.

I was one of those men who believed that women exaggerated too much about everything.

I know that pregnancy and labour are stressful and painful but not the way many women today exaggerate.

By the way, our mothers had 8-10 children.

If it was as painful as many women claim it is today, I doubt they would have had that many children.

So when she got pregnant I never assisted her in any way.

I expected her to do all the housework like she used to before she got pregnant.

She complained but I didn't pay any attention to her.

I hung out with my friends like my life depended on it.

She cried most of the time but I didn't care because I didn't do anything bad to her.

I asked for special dishes and expected her to meet my conjugal needs.

This continued all through pregnancy.

The day she went into labour I was at home.

She came to inform me and seemed like she was in so much pain.

I told her to snap out of the act because she knew labour was not as painful as women had made it look.

She thought I was joking but when I continued watching skits online she knew I wasn't joking.

She screamed in pain until our landlord and his wife came to knock on the door.

I opened the door before someone would think I was hi.tt.ing her.

They came in and the landlord’s wife saw her and said it looked like she was in labour.

I said yes she was but I couldn't understand why she was screaming and pretending to be in pain.

Two of them exchanged glances before his wife asked where's your hospital bag.

My wife pointed to somewhere in the sitting room.

She grabbed it and they took my wife with them.

The landlord called some younger guys to help carry my wife to their car because she could no longer walk.

I watched them from the terrace until they drove off.

I saw how these men were touching my wife all in the name of carrying her because she was in labour and couldn't work and vowed never to go to that hospital.

I vowed that they'd pay the hospital bills and provide for the baby.

I was expecting the landlord to inform me that my wife had given birth but I never heard anything and pride didn't let me call.

A few days later my wife returned home and the landlord and his wife brought her.

They were carrying two babies and that was when I found out that she was even pregnant with twins.

No one said anything to me.

They helped my wife settle in.

I was expecting to hear how much her delivery cost but no one said anything to me.

I was completely ignored.

As a result, I left the house angrily and didn't return for a few days.

I was expecting to be called but no one did.

Out of anger, I told my wife that her mother couldn't come to my house.

If she wanted her to come she should find her own apartment.

To my surprise, she moved in with our landlord.

They live alone and all their children are grown and married.

The landlord's wife was already looking after her as her Mum wasn't yet around.

A few days later, her Mum arrived and I thought she would have come to speak to me to hear my side of the story but she didn't.

She nursed her daughter back to good health in the Landlord's house.

I used to boil in anger each time I heard their laughter.

Her Mum stayed for 3 months before leaving and not once did she knock on my door.

I confronted her just before she left and she didn't say a word to me.

I told her that she should take her daughter with her because our marriage is over and I now doubted that the children were mine.

She just said I should do as I please but return their daughter like I took her to her father's house with my family if I no longer wanted her.

I felt so much pain seeing the Landlord holding my children like they were his or he was their grandfather.

One day I confronted him and his wife and they didn't even say a word.

I thought other tenants would come to my aid but no one did.

When the children turned 6 months old, my wife returned to the apartment.

The Landlord's wife still stopped by to look after the children.

She held them when my wife resumed work.

Gradually I realised that I played no role in her life or that of our children.

She never felt any pain I wanted her to feel.

They had shielded her.

I then realized she had become so cold towards me.

I swallowed my pride and approached our landlord and his wife to complain to them.

They tongued lashed me at first before telling me that I was very cr.uel.

They said they had watched how I treated my wife all through pregnancy.

They watched her return from the market with two heavy sacks, and even when I was home I wouldn't help her.

They said they gave up on me after the way I behaved when my wife was in labour and even crying and I said she was pretending.

His wife told me that women never forget how you treat them when they are pregnant.

He said my wife could never relate to me normally again because I was too cr.uel to her when she needed me most.

I left their apartment shattered.

I've apologized to my wife but nothing has changed.

It's been 18 months now and it's still the same thing.

She's very cold towards me.

I have turned a new leaf but she doesn't take me seriously.

She's just nonchalant to all my efforts.

Please is there another way to let her know that I'm sorry?

I used to hear that women never forget how you treat them when they are pregnant but I thought it was a joke.

Now I know better and I'm sorry.

Please what can I do?

I've tried reaching out to her family but I'm having cold feet because of how I've related to them.

Please help me because I'm desperate.

I don't like how I'm living with my wife.

We are worse than Roommates.

I know some people would advise that I marry another woman or get a side chick but please that's not what I need.

I'll be reading the comments.

All I'll say is that if you take a poll, many people can relate to this scenario.

Pregnancy changes a lot and also reveals a lot.

I just hope you can work this out even though it seems very unlikely but you never know.

Over to the elders.